I asked the CEO about some of the beliefs he tried to live by, and he revealed that one of the main goals of his traditional practice was to attempt to Rise Above Praise and Blame. He tried very hard not to blame his employees when they screwed up. But he never praised them, either.
My partner loves to tease when he catches me putting on a little perfume before one of my online courses. "Do you think they'll sit close enough to the webcam to smell you?" I understand how strange this seems. It's just one of the things I do to get into professional character.
We never think when we are in the midst of our fatalistic inner scenarios that we might actually be deriving some pleasure from it. If you find yourself using dark, internal "drama" as a way to pay attention to yourself and keep yourself company, notice, as you sink into a deep morass or complain to others, what you are really looking for.
Are you someone who just loves conferences and workshops? Or do you have mixed feelings about attending them? For me, it's definitely the latter. When I'm with large groups, overtired from travel or stimulation, over-networked and over-stuffed with information, the demons and default feelings tend to emerge.
When you clarify your roles in relationship and bring consciousness to the leadership in them, something sacred happens. All the energy dedicated to jockeying for power and position gets contained in conscious roles, and frees you up to really focus on loving and on things you love to do together.
The heart itself is not always a trustworthy leader. It simply is. It likes what it likes. It loves things that are good for it, it loves things that are bad for it. It’s up to us to discriminate, to steer the ship that rides on heart's waves. The second article in the Leadership in Relationship series.
You've probably heard of "The Power of Now," but if you are often rushing, emotionally overheated, or unsure of when your emotional responses fit the circumstances, The Power of "Not Now" is an essential practice for lovers and leaders who want to practice self-containment and effective communication.
I once lived in an ashram where hours of time would be put into very detailed and laborious tasks, such as filing tens of thousands of letters, painting a meditation hall or peeling hundreds of pounds of apples. At some point well towards the end of an exhaustive assignment, the teacher would come by and notice a very small but essential mistake that the success of the entire project was contingent upon. And so we had to start over from...
Oh, the disappointment. Lance Armstrong, champion of champions, exposed as a liar and a cheat. Beyonce, pop-star Goddess, lip-syncing the anthem at our nation's most prestigious live event. It's an old story in current headlines: How our leaders, heroes and celebrities fail us and fall from grace. What can we do to build trust?
En route to the waiting room, where I was to disrobe and re-robe, remove my underarm deodorant and wait to be pressed, squeezed and radiated, the technician leaned against the door and glanced at my papers, twice. She backed the door open, pointed me inside and wryly asked: "So, you didn't have kids?"