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Every Valentine’s Day is different for me, and it’s different for each person on the planet. For some, it’s a day to remember to write a poem, make a fancy reservation, buy the chocolate, order the flowers or pick out the jewels. Hopefully, if this is you, you feel grateful, generous, hardly obliged. For many, it’s a day to remember that some holidays are commercial inventions, because companies like Hallmark and 1-800-Flowers need them to be. And retail stores definitely...

Unless you have been living under a rock for the past two decades, you already know what to do to reduce stress, and you don't need a "professional" to tell you yet again to slow down, eat right, sleep enough, and exercise. What to do? Prepare.

I was writing, or attempting to write in my favorite coffee shop, when I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between two women, one complaining vigorously about going home for Thanksgiving.

Also published for my column Inner Actions on Feminist.com My niece and nephew, twin toddlers, practically pee their pull-ups over the elaborate “kiddie” train at their local park, where there also sits an Amtrak-like railcar, a projected ride called “The Simulator.” One day out of the blue, after weeks of barely noticing it existed, the Simulator suddenly became a source of deep curiosity, and the preferred ride of choice. Of course it was closed, and we waited and waited for...

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If you’re one of those who noticed that I haven’t written a muse-letter in a while, there might be a reason for that: my fingertips are pruned. In New York, it has rained a chilly rain almost every day for the entire month of June. “June Gloom” is a term used to describe the cool, gray late spring weather patterns in Southern California. Well, it’s one thing to have June Gloom if 10 out of 12 months of the year...

“Forget your perfect offering, There is a crack, a crack in everything That’s how the light gets in.”—-Leonard Cohen Hallelujah! “The Secret” is out. Yes, yes, that one. The one that has been on “Larry King” and “Oprah,” and written about in the New York Times, the one that loved-ones have downloaded and been inspired by and passed on to us. “The Secret” reveals the Law of Attraction, which basically says that in order to have everything we want, we must...

Although there are "hookless" ways to establish closeness and intimacy, hooking can eventually lead to meaningful relationships. But there is a difference between being "hooked on" someone and forming a healthy attachment to them.

Aaaaah, Spring. We’re deep in it. And this year, for us in the Northeast, we are finally having one. As the temperature rises and the foliage returns, so does our inner fire and juiciness. Desires, sexual and otherwise, bloom. There seems to be an air of confusion about desire, the threads of which are entangled in a bulbous knot, which we each carry collectively and individually. Some desires lead us closer to ourselves, and others pull us into seemingly unending...

A beautiful female colleague of mine is getting married for the first time at 51. A friend of mine in his late 40's just found a line of work that truly suits him. A brilliant 46-year-old acquaintance recently adopted a baby. Do these ages seem a little "late in life" to you? It appears these days that people are taking longer to get it together.

Years ago, an attractive  man from Colorado contacted me. He wanted to get to know me better. I told him I wasn’t interested in the long distance relationship thing (see “Surrendering the Bennies” article on my site if you want more details on that). He persisted. He said he could live anywhere at this point in his life. He often traveled to different places, and better yet, to different dimensions. He was writing a book about the human heart. He...