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We never think when we are in the midst of our fatalistic inner scenarios that we might actually be deriving some pleasure from it. If you find yourself using dark, internal "drama" as a way to pay attention to yourself and keep yourself company, notice, as you sink into a deep morass or complain to others, what you are really looking for.

I once lived in an ashram where hours of time would be put into very detailed and laborious tasks, such as filing tens of thousands of letters, painting a meditation hall or peeling hundreds of pounds of apples. At some point well towards the end of an exhaustive assignment, the teacher would come by and notice a very small but essential mistake that the success of the entire project was contingent upon. And so we had to start over from...

There is a lot of solid advice out there about good communication, but you may have noticed that these guidelines can fly out the window when one is emotionally triggered! Since roles really determine the types of conversations you can have, I want to encourage you to get crystal clear on your roles in your relationships . . .because no matter how good your communication skills are, when roles get confused, crazy comes to play.

Oh, the disappointment. Lance Armstrong, champion of champions, exposed as a liar and a cheat. Beyonce, pop-star Goddess, lip-syncing the anthem at our nation's most prestigious live event. It's an old story in current headlines: How our leaders, heroes and celebrities fail us and fall from grace. What can we do to build trust?

I know what some of you might be thinking. Ummm, Blair, did I read the title of this one correctly? Arrogance is bad. Of course, arrogance can be a big problem in love and leadership. In a recent and poignant tweet chat about vanity, members of one of my online leadership communities became so fierce about this flaw, it was bordering on arrogant. But if everything light has a shadow, isn’t the opposite also true? Let me explain. A while...

I’m not really an “altar” type. When I lived in an ashram and again when I was studying shamanism, I made an effort to place objects with special meaning in a designated sacred space that ideally I would meditate in front of. Mostly, my altar collected dust. However, when Chris Guillebeau closed the 2012 World Domination Summit (WDS) by gifting me and 999 other attendees with $100 and charging us to do something meaningful with it- lo and behold, I thought about creating an...

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Do you have trouble saying no, and feel resentful, tired or overextended a fair amount of the time? If you answered yes, you likely have boundary issues. Join the club. (If you answered no, please forward this article to someone who does). Crossed boundaries are everywhere and on my mind. I recently learned that some well-respected teachers I knew at the posh, New York City private school I attended for years crossed unthinkable boundaries with some students. It saddens me...

If you’re one of those who noticed that I haven’t written a muse-letter in a while, there might be a reason for that: my fingertips are pruned. In New York, it has rained a chilly rain almost every day for the entire month of June. “June Gloom” is a term used to describe the cool, gray late spring weather patterns in Southern California. Well, it’s one thing to have June Gloom if 10 out of 12 months of the year...

“Forget your perfect offering, There is a crack, a crack in everything That’s how the light gets in.”—-Leonard Cohen Hallelujah! “The Secret” is out. Yes, yes, that one. The one that has been on “Larry King” and “Oprah,” and written about in the New York Times, the one that loved-ones have downloaded and been inspired by and passed on to us. “The Secret” reveals the Law of Attraction, which basically says that in order to have everything we want, we must...

Aaaaah, Spring. We’re deep in it. And this year, for us in the Northeast, we are finally having one. As the temperature rises and the foliage returns, so does our inner fire and juiciness. Desires, sexual and otherwise, bloom. There seems to be an air of confusion about desire, the threads of which are entangled in a bulbous knot, which we each carry collectively and individually. Some desires lead us closer to ourselves, and others pull us into seemingly unending...