A client who got a BIG promotion was worried that her new responsibilities would eat into her life and she would lose herself in work, as she had done before, as so many of us have done.
I asked her, “Is there something you would do on a regular basis that would be a definitive break — something that brings you back to yourself, that could help you transition out of work mode?”
And she said, “Well I was thinking of practicing my solfège.”
And I responded, “Soul Fetch! That’s brilliant! Tell me more. What exactly does a Soul Fetch entail?”
She laughed. She is a great singer and musician. She corrected me.
“Solfège.” That’s the French word for a specific practice of site reading music.
But I liked Soul Fetch oh so much better. And for this lovely woman, they are one and the same. Practicing solfège connects her to her creativity, her artistry, her self — a retrieval of soul. And I have co-opted Soul Fetch as the PERFECT term for the art and discipline of transitioning yourself from work mode to life mode and back again. I cannot express enough its importance to a life well-lived.
So many people have difficulty managing that moment when they walk in the door, home from work at the end of the day. They are met instantly with kids’ demands and partner expectations without having a chance to collect themselves or return to their own center. The lack of time invested in replenishing the well can lead to an inner drought, a build up of irritation.
Now many of you reading may not have the type of job that you have to come home from. But even if you work at home in your PJ’s in a job you love, being in any one mode for an extended period of time — be it work, parent or even play — creates a one-dimensional effect. A Soul Fetch, described more fully below, is a way to transition out of the role you play during the day and get back to the essential you, returning to yourself some of the energy you have been putting out there.
The Soul Fetch can be a good thing to do BEFORE starting your day or leaving home for work. But in my experience, a Soul Fetch is more essential AFTER.
If possible, let your Soul Fetch be 3-15+ minutes of doing something (or nothing!) that centers you in joy, relaxation or creativity, or all three, like my client’s solfège. In this day and very new age there is not one of you that doesn’t already know about the restorative powers of meditation, yoga, taking a bath or listening to music. Here are a few examples of things busy peeps may already do, that can become a soul fetch with the right intention.
Wash Your Face: The simple act of washing your face, allowing the work mask to slide off. Following it by actually looking in the mirror into your own, wondrous eyes, and connect with who’s there.
Get Cooking: If it is not a chore for you, cooking can be so creative. Nourishing the body also nourishes the soul.
Connect with a Pet: Allow time spent with those beloved critters to bring you into the wordless, mysterious realm of animal being.
What’s YOUR favorite Soul Fetch? Feel free to enter it in the comments below!
And remember — it’s not the activity as much as it is the recognition that you are doing it to return to yourself. Sometimes the Soul Fetch is the simple act of reminding yourself that you Love Yourself — No Matter What.