That bittersweet month for summer lovers when the lightly marked appointment books and lively green memories fade into the speckled background of fall foliage. It’s a time of new beginnings: a new school year, new projects, new ambitions, goals and if you’re lucky, a new pair of boots. Change is literally in the air, and in the quality and vibrancy of the light.
Many books are written about human beings’ fear of change. My observation is that it isn’t change we fear so much. If we’re aware that we’re stuck, then change is something that we consciously desire.
Changing jobs, homes, locales, leaving relationships, starting them . . . these all involve major transitions.
Transition is one of those aspects of life that wise people say helps you grow. It’s true, but while you’re in it, it generally sucks. Especially when the change has been thrust upon you without your conscious choice, as it is in natural disasters. It has been theorized that every transition has the flavor of that original transition: birth. So, it’s possible that if your mother had one of those 48 hour intensive labors, you’re f–ked. At the very best, you associate transition with being pushed and smooshed out of a totally warm and protected environment into the harsh outer reality we all now call home.
Often, transition feels messy and unfocused, like you tried to change the channel on your life and all you ended up with was a screen full of static. It has a contracted quality, like you are living in the hallway of your apt. That first week after Labor Day always gets me. This year, despite my efforts to counteract it, I felt flat, spaced out, tired and cranky most of the time, with random tears welling up at commercials and news clips.
Transitions can be subtle, like seasons, or obvious, like switching jobs. Try these if you are in a transition of any sort: Moving, breaking up, changing careers, or just experiencing a seasonal shift.
Humorous and homeopathic coping suggestions for transition
Then, focus on the fact that you should be taking better care of yourself. It may be ‘easier’ than dealing with what’s really going on.
And always– Love yourself no matter what.