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Quartz
09/29/2023
When a worker's behavior is annoying, the framework of role-to-role relationships can help us make sense of our reactions so Read article
Quartz
09/29/2023
When a worker's behavior is annoying, the framework of role-to-role relationships can help us make sense of our reactions so Read article
The Muse
05/31/2022
People think influence is just for sales. By studying these four types of influence, you can increase you leadership at Read article
Longreads
08/25/2022
If you like stories about spiritual teachers and how it all goes wrong, you'll love this reading list with a Read article
The Muse
10/08/2021
Even if your prospective employers don’t ask every one of these, preparing to answer them will help you gain clarity Read article
Insider, Inc.
12/26/2022
Want to avoid a huge holiday hangover? Do the Holiday Huddle with you partner or family so you get what Read article
Yes! Magazine
11/29/2022
You've probably heard that unhealed trauma creates drama. But did you know that drama can heal trauma? Read article
Best Self Media
07/06/2022
The pandemic is over. Sort of. It was getting to me. Maybe it's getting to you, too. Read article
Shondaland
06/25/2021
With so many groups promising growth, community, and self-improvement, how do we connect with ourselves and others without harm? Read article
The Muse
06/09/2021
By following these 15 tips, you’ll conduct a smooth and professional interview—and increase your chances of making and retaining the Read article
Blair's Blog
There’s a common mistake that servant leaders make, and yes, women are the most vulnerable to making it, even though Read more
HuffPost Personal
10/16/2020
Was my spiritual community a cult? What is the role of being one of the lucky ones? Read article
Greatist
09/08/2020
Are the online wars a distraction from what's really going on? Read article
Blair's Blog
Improve your relationships by learning the difference. Read more
Greatist
01/25/2021
Has the pandemic eaten your sense of humor? Reasons why and how to get better at laughing at yourself. Read article
Best Self Magazine
10/15/2020
I turned 50 when "Friends" turned 25. The first time I watched was in an ashram basement. Let's just say Read article
Little Old Lady Comedy
02/16/2021
If you're a woman on Instagram over 40, this comedic send up is for you. Read article
The Good Men Project
10/18/2015
One leader's struggle with the difference between praise and appreciation may point to a trend. Read article
Elephant Journal
Are you using spirituality as a defense? Read article
Blair's Blog
There’s no risk in saying you’re anti-racist. If you’re going to communicate in a meaningful way with your customers, constituents and donors Read more
Blair's Blog
Destructive competition, and telling people what to do, often backfire. Here's what to do instead. Read more
Blair's Blog
I invite you, in your resolution making this year, to include three little dark creatures that are disguised as enemies, Read more
Blair's Blog
Why it's time to move out of the drama of processing and into the business of loving. Read more
Blair's Blog
You can lessen the influence of imposter syndrome if you remember this one thing. Read more
Blair's Blog
Authority is what makes leadership effective. Read more
Popsugar
01/23/2023
Has your hot new relationship suddenly hit a wall? Here are some reasons why and three things you can do Read article
Insider
02/14/2022
When we suppress our humanity, we cut ourselves off from connection. Read article
Elephant Journal
How I managed to let go of the guy who was married to his job. Read article
Chronogram Magazine (Print)
Growth requires us to stretch past our comfort zone, and fall through the unknown. Read article
Blair's Blog
Hint: "Not being your old nasty boss" is not a leadership strategy. Read more
Blair's Blog
Empowerment and Entitlement can look alike. But to people we interact with, they don't feel the same. Read more
Blair's Blog
Flying in what feels like a tin can is very scary. But focusing on a task helped me ignore the Read more
Blair's Blog
I’ve noticed more struggles with accountability across the board. (Speaking of boards, accountability often suffers in nonprofit boards, because volunteers). Read more
Blair's Blog
Amidst the clank and clatter of a bustling coffee shop, I shared my latest fear with a girlfriend. “I’m scared about writing… Read more
Blair's Blog
The Need for Reflection A leader I work with had a problem: His company was growing. Growth is always what… Read more
Blair's Blog
The unexpected power of holding a gun offers insights to the power of great leaders. Read more
Blair's Blog
I have a three-step process for getting in touch with one of my executive clients. I email her once. Sometimes I have… Read more
Blair's Blog
Master of one Renown writer, teacher and Buddhist nun Pema Chodron tells the story of being sent by her teacher… Read more
Blair's Blog
So many people get unhinged during traveling. Atypical hostility and tension mount. The rush, the anxiety, the transition seems to Read more
Blair's Blog
I for one will never understand why Donald Trump’s candidacy did not end at “grab ‘em by the pussy.” Well,… Read more
Blair's Blog
We were celebrating the successful launch of my good friend’s new amazing business. We had already had a glass of Read more
Blair's Blog
I want to shout to the Mother, "Go get your baby! Help it to stand! Help it to walk!" But Read more
Blair's Blog
Somewhere in my news feed I saw a clip of our nation’s elected leader in Houston, telling the media and… Read more
Blair's Blog
Years ago I heard a captivating talk by Resonate author Nancy Duarte at the World Domination Summit. Duarte's talk, delivered… Read more
Blair's Blog
If one doesn't immediately come to mind, you're probably scanning your life for your latest bad habit. Is it the… Read more
Blair's Blog
It is important to consider when and how honesty is useful, and how much honesty is necessary to get your Read more
Blair's Blog
I was onsite interviewing several employees about their work environment, when, between meetings, I couldn't help but overhear the playful… Read more
Blair's Blog
You’ve lived with constant anxiety. PIVOTED. Worked too hard, too long. Applied for the loans. Here's one way to get Read more
Blair's Blog
In the 7th post in the Relationship as a Team Series, what each partner wanted, more than peaceful and clear Read more
Blair's Blog
One of the things I really enjoy about working with business leaders and organizations is the ability to grow by… Read more
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The more you say these words with conviction and presence, the more you experience what it means to show up Read more
Blair's Blog
A few years ago I worked with a woman who had been suddenly and brutally abandoned as a young girl… Read more
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This weekend I celebrated the 50th year of a close friend. It was a momentous and intimate gathering, and many… Read more
Blair's Blog
In 2016, before he was president, Donald Trump declared that he would not take the advice of his seasoned political… Read more
Blair's Blog
You may not need leadership skills to make your vacation a smash — but consider these five simple steps to Read more
Blair's Blog
A woman I know was preparing to interview for a huge internal promotion. She hired a coach to help her Read more
Blair's Blog
Not too long ago, nestled between the political rants, adorable animal videos and proverbial 'happy life' photos of my… Read more
Blair's Blog
The other day I saw a short video talk that reminded me of a dear friend who lives on the… Read more
Blair's Blog
5:45 am is not my best time, especially if there's no coffee around. But that's the time I was groggily… Read more
Blair's Blog
When a big storm is coming, mother nature lets you know. Wind, clouds, humidity and barometric pressure all change in Read more
Blair's Blog
A few years ago, when Twitter was new and addicting, a tweet popped up that caught my eye. It… Read more
Blair's Blog
Whether or not you live in the Northeast, you've probably heard that winter came for a belated visit, right in… Read more
Blair's Blog
I've generally kept my political views out of public sight -- not as a matter of pride or principal; it… Read more
Blair's Blog
"I said to the abbot -- I'll get in the habit, but not in the habit" -- Steven Sondheim When… Read more
Blair's Blog
Here we are, again at the start. So many new opportunities to lead in love, to hold your own while… Read more
Blair's Blog
I discovered something essential about being a leader many years ago during my drama therapy internship at the West Haven Read more
Blair's Blog
"One of the simplest paths to deep change is for the less powerful to speak as much as they listen,… Read more
Blair's Blog
If you feel that your current job (or lack there of) is not challenging you or utilizing the depth of Read more
Blair's Blog
A little while ago I crossed paths with the most gorgeous, good natured, collarless puppy. I named him Brad Pitt-Bull… Read more
Blair's Blog
Years ago, I learned about my limitations from a dog I rescued up the road. This summer, when we picked… Read more
Blair's Blog
September: That bittersweet month for summer lovers when the lightly marked appointment books and lively green memories fade into the… Read more
Blair's Blog
In the middle of a risky conversation with a steady boyfriend, one in which we were confessing our doubts about… Read more
Blair's Blog
If you have been hanging out online, you've probably noticed the copious amounts of free stuff that entrepreneurial practitioners like… Read more
Blair's Blog
I made a different funny face for every ridiculous reason Barry gave for his decision to stop dating his fabulous… Read more
Blair's Blog
Independence. What a wonderful thing. It is at the heart and soul of the American consciousness and in many ways… Read more
Blair's Blog
The first in a series about leadership in relationship, this backwards post is meant to provoke thought and reflection about Read more
Blair's Blog
Listening to these women mirror their modern, mate-selection process back to me, I realized how dismissive and petty we have Read more
Blair's Blog
Eden was upset. John was nervous. Eden, with her good communication, had asked John to "just listen." John knew that meant… Read more
Blair's Blog
A variety of relationship experts are counseling men to pump up their masculinity and women to return to their softer feminine Read more
Blair's Blog
There is always comedy in the extremes, and I don’t know about you, but when I recognize the crooked truths, Read more
Blair's Blog
One seemingly ordinary January day, I was walking along the road from my home in the woods to run some Read more
Blair's Blog
Now that pharmaceuticals are widely used to alleviate some of the general malaise and anxiety of living in the modern Read more
Blair's Blog
When we are unprepared, our vulnerability gets triggered, which is a good thing in terms of growth and learning for Read more
Blair's Blog
You’ve probably found yourself analyzing and diagnosing your significant other, hoping that he or she will listen to your diagnosis Read more
Blair's Blog
Change is destabilizing -- and for most people, destabilization is very triggering. When people are emotionally triggered or feeling insecure, Read more
Blair's Blog
Growth is a part of leadership. Sooner or later, you will have to trust someone else to do the jobs Read more
Blair's Blog
Did you just get an amazing new job or promotion, and now are feeling shaky, like despite all your leadership… Read more
Blair's Blog
When people are under the gun, unless they are super clear on what their job is, they may unconsciously resort to Read more
Blair's Blog
On a recent summer day, a large group of family and friends were enjoying a picnic at a local state Read more
Blair's Blog
Everything of high value requires your protection: Your sentimental objects, your iPhone, your children, your health, your IRA. So why not Read more
Blair's Blog
It certainly is a chaotic time to be on the planet. Let's stay connected by nurturing our relationships. Read more
Blair's Blog
I recently received this comment from a colleague who unsubscribed from my e-mail list: "I just have too many emails Read more
Blair's Blog
I felt my heart leap into my throat and tears stream down my cheeks, and I noticed others blinking back Read more
Blair's Blog
You can’t always choose how life is going to go, but if you pay attention to the roles that simply Read more
Blair's Blog
Katherine got into the car, and immediately felt Steve's lousy mood suck all the air out of it. "Oh no,"… Read more
Blair's Blog
When you compare where you are with where you want to be, you will feel inadequate (a flavor of shame). Read more
Blair's Blog
I had no idea that I would feel so small as I gazed out over the field and felt that Read more
Blair's Blog
I asked the CEO about some of the beliefs he tried to live by, and he revealed that one of Read more
Blair's Blog
I was talking to a man who described his terrific new full-time job as if it were a failure. I Read more
Blair's Blog
Sheila and Tracy found themselves arguing mercilessly about logistics. Who was doing more household tasks? How was the middle child Read more
Blair's Blog
We know the limitations of avoiding big conversations and feelings in relationship on a regular basis, so avoidance is obviously Read more
Blair's Blog
I usually go for seltzer water or fermented grapes, but sometimes you get the kind of news that is better Read more
Blair's Blog
You would think that after witnessing so many women in the sheer agony of childbirth, she would be prepared. But Read more
Blair's Blog
All through dinner prep and catching up with my friend, I breathed into my discomfort as I focused my full Read more
Blair's Blog
My partner loves to tease when he catches me putting on a little perfume before one of my online courses. Read more
Blair's Blog
FL: Maybe I don't have enough vision. Maybe I'm not communicating well with them. They're not getting it. I want Read more
Blair's Blog
Although it was a special Valentine's Day dinner, in a very pricey restaurant, we could hear the conversation of the Read more
Blair's Blog
I am a denizen of the modern world of dating, in which the telephone has become nearly extinct. To arrange Read more
Blair's Blog
I once had an eccentric boss. Everyone liked the head receptionist, but after a year on the job, her work Read more
Blair's Blog
I closed my eyes, breathed and focused on relaxing the muscles I normally used, and tried to lift the bar. Read more
Blair's Blog
Watching the snow fall during a recent storm here in the East, I thought about how those tiny little flakes Read more
Blair's Blog
Wouldn't it be useful if more personal fights had a more professional consideration, with less defensiveness, less reactivity and less Read more
Blair's Blog
In the fifth post in the Relationship as a Team series, we explore a great way to have fights that Read more
Blair's Blog
The fourth article in the Relationship as a Team Series. Most of us have a convoluted relationship to conflict. If Read more
Blair's Blog
In the third post in the Relationship as a Team Series, Ed doesn't want to take the garbage out at Read more
Blair's Blog
The second post in the Relationship as Team Series, scheduled maintenance talks require couples who avoid talking to each other Read more
Blair's Blog
A client came to me distraught. He had been struggling in his relationship. His fiancée was non-responsive to his needs. Read more
Blair's Blog
When I allow the dismal thoughts and stories associated with the feelings to lead ("I am alone," "I will be Read more
Blair's Blog
We never think when we are in the midst of our fatalistic inner scenarios that we might actually be deriving Read more
Blair's Blog
Are you someone who just loves conferences and workshops? Or do you have mixed feelings about attending them? For me, Read more
Blair's Blog
If you actually consult with leaders, you know how impossibly rare the combination of ideal qualities is, and how much Read more
Blair's Blog
While lists and steps provoke thought and provide wisdom and structure, they cannot fix your life, transform you into Churchill, Read more
Blair's Blog
Success does not discriminate between the two. But true Leadership does. You will be recognized, followed and deeply appreciated as Read more
Blair's Blog
I was on the phone with my brilliant business and marketing coach, pouring through the details of why my latest Read more
Blair's Blog
With all the choices and information about relationships we now have available to us, I am still surprised by how Read more
Blair's Blog
When you clarify your roles in relationship and bring consciousness to the leadership in them, something sacred happens. All the Read more
Blair's Blog
In the fourth post in the Leadership in Relationship Series, Amber and her boyfriend use leadership principles to co-create a Read more
Blair's Blog
The heart itself is not always a trustworthy leader. It simply is. It likes what it likes. It loves things Read more
Blair's Blog
Today the events of the Boston Marathon have finally caught up with me. I've been avoiding it. But I did Read more
Blair's Blog
You've probably heard of "The Power of Now," but if you are often rushing, emotionally overheated, or unsure of when Read more
Blair's Blog
Even if you work at home in your PJ’s at a job you love, being in any one mode for Read more
Blair's Blog
I once lived in an ashram where hours of time would be put into very detailed and laborious tasks, such… Read more
Blair's Blog
There is a lot of solid advice out there about good communication, but you may have noticed that these guidelines Read more
Blair's Blog
Oh, the disappointment. Lance Armstrong, champion of champions, exposed as a liar and a cheat. Beyonce, pop-star Goddess, lip-syncing the Read more
Blair's Blog
I know what some of you might be thinking. Ummm, Blair, did I read the title of this one correctly?… Read more
Blair's Blog
En route to the waiting room, where I was to disrobe and re-robe, remove my underarm deodorant and wait to Read more
Blair's Blog
I'm not going to be telling you how to "be with your loneliness" in the hopes that one day you Read more
Blair's Blog
Resistance, Shmizistance: Stop calling your avoidance Resistance and have some fun. Has knowing you're resisting something ever helped you stop Read more
Blair's Blog
I'm not really an "altar" type. When I lived in an ashram and again when I was studying shamanism, I… Read more
Blair's Blog
Do you have trouble saying no, and feel resentful, tired or overextended a fair amount of the time? If you… Read more
Blair's Blog
Every Valentine's Day is different for me, and it's different for each person on the planet. For some, it's a… Read more
Blair's Blog
Unless you have been living under a rock for the past two decades, you already know what to do to Read more
Blair's Blog
I was writing, or attempting to write in my favorite coffee shop, when I couldn't help but overhear a conversation Read more
Blair's Blog
Also published for my column Inner Actions on Feminist.com My niece and nephew, twin toddlers, practically pee their pull-ups over… Read more
Blair's Blog
If you're one of those who noticed that I haven't written a muse-letter in a while, there might be a… Read more
Blair's Blog
"Forget your perfect offering, There is a crack, a crack in everything That's how the light gets in."----Leonard Cohen Hallelujah! "The… Read more
Blair's Blog
Although there are "hookless" ways to establish closeness and intimacy, hooking can eventually lead to meaningful relationships. But there is Read more
Blair's Blog
Aaaaah, Spring. We're deep in it. And this year, for us in the Northeast, we are finally having one. As… Read more
Blair's Blog
A beautiful female colleague of mine is getting married for the first time at 51. A friend of mine in Read more
Blair's Blog
Years ago, an attractive man from Colorado contacted me. He wanted to get to know me better. I told him… Read more