That bittersweet month for summer lovers when the lightly marked appointment books and lively green memories fade into the speckled background of fall foliage. It’s a time of new beginnings: a new school year, new projects, new ambitions, goals and if you’re lucky, a new pair of boots. Change is literally in the air, and in the quality and vibrancy of the light.
Many books are written about human beings’ fear of change. My observation is that it isn’t change we fear so much. If we’re aware that we’re stuck, then change is something that we consciously desire.Is it change we fear, or is it really transition? Click To Tweet Changing jobs, homes, locales, leaving relationships, starting them . . . these all involve major transitions.
Transition is one of those aspects of life that wise people say helps you grow. It’s true, but while you’re in it, it generally sucks. Especially when the change has been thrust upon you without your conscious choice, as it is in natural disasters. It has been theorized that every transition has the flavor of that original transition: birth. So, it’s possible that if your mother had one of those 48 hour intensive labors, you’re f–ked. At the very best, you associate transition with being pushed and smooshed out of a totally warm and protected environment into the harsh outer reality we all now call home.
Often, transition feels messy and unfocused, like you tried to change the channel on your life and all you ended up with was a screen full of static. It has a contracted quality, like you are living in the hallway of your apt. That first week after Labor Day always gets me. This year, despite my efforts to counteract it, I felt flat, spaced out, tired and cranky most of the time, with random tears welling up at commercials and news clips.
Transitions can be subtle, like seasons, or obvious, like switching jobs. Try these if you are in a transition of any sort: Moving, breaking up, changing careers, or just experiencing a seasonal shift.
Humorous and homeopathic coping suggestions for transition
Then, focus on the fact that you should be taking better care of yourself. It may be ‘easier’ than dealing with what’s really going on.
And always– Love yourself no matter what.
I love the word transition. It is definitely what makes change difficult for many.
Years back I read a wonderful book called: Managing Transitions by William Bridges. It was incredibly helpful and now is in its 2nd edition.
Might be a great resource for your network.
Great post. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
Thank you, Kate for the feedback and the suggestions! Will check it out.
YES! Life is all about transitions from day one until the last day. How we plan or manage them often makes a BIG difference in the outcome. Life can also turn on a dime and suddenly. Then there’s little time for transition but it happens anyway. Thank you for these good thoughts!
Very astute additions, Gary! Thank you for reading and commenting here.