Every Valentine’s Day is different for me, and it’s different for each person on the planet.
For some, it’s a day to remember to write a poem, make a fancy reservation, buy the chocolate, order the flowers or pick out the jewels.
Hopefully, if this is you, you feel grateful, generous, hardly obliged.
For many, it’s a day to remember that some holidays are commercial inventions, because companies like Hallmark and 1-800-Flowers need them to be. And retail stores definitely need a reminder to take down last year’s Christmas decorations already, and flourish their windows with something new.
For others, Valentine’s Day is a trip down memory lane, of past lovers, deceased or living; remote places, and maybe even all the way back to the red construction paper hearts with the doily fringe that you made for your family and friends in grade school.
For me, Valentine’s Day was once and in some ways will always be V-Day, a reminder to stop violence against women.
And still, for many, Valentine’s is a reminder that you’re single,
(and maybe, even for a good number of years more than you ever imagined you would be.)
If this is you, and even if you remind yourself
it’s just a day;
that you’re not alone, just single;
and that Hallmark does indeed need to sell cards,
and stores do need to take down that flimsy tinsel —
the ache may persist.
The grieving is real.
Remember to love your loneliness, and longing.
And then, no matter who you are, or where you’ve been
go treat yourself to something wonderful,
not because it’s Valentine’s Day,
but because YOU are entirely worth celebrating.
Single, married, divorce, disinterested; if you’re reading this post, this year’s Valentine’s Day reminds me of You.Happy V-Day. And remember, Love Yourself, No Matter What Click To Tweet
What does Valentine’s Day remind you of this year? Feel free to share in the comments, below.
Thank you for the most beautiful Valentine ever! I’ve spent many Valentine’s Days in tears, and many in joy. Both will happen again. The wheel keeps turning. Learn to love the wheel!
Thank you for your comment, Melissa! I’m learning to love the wheel. <3
This is beautiful Blair! I agree with Melissa….Learn to Love the Wheel!
Thanks for showing up here Denise! If you feel like sharing, what do you do to love it?
Beautiful, Blair. Even those in relationship have moments of loneliness. Learning to love yourself through all of it is key.
That’s an important reminder, Alli, thank you.